Comments on: Am I Too Good For You?

By: Paolo

Paolo — Sat, 24 May 2008 15:53:20 +0000

I completely agree with you, for everything….never never forget who you are and don’t try to change yourself for someone else. I think you are one of the best person that i know and i always appreciated you, keep going you will find your route, you will find and make your “Dream”!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 19 May 2008 18:41:38 +0000

1.) No.

2.) Your use of ‘inter alia’ makes me want to shake you.

The end.

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Mon, 19 May 2008 13:47:29 +0000

Lvl dished up some excellent advice! My own two cents: I ended up marrying a definitely edgy guy (at least for me… tattoos, dirtiest mind I’ve ever met, drank like a fish), but who has the biggest heart of anyone I know. I do see myself trying to fix him despite my best efforts not to, and I do see him 1) loving the good girl in me for keeping him grounded and 2) constantly trying to corrupt me. Still, we’ve got an amazing, loving, difficult, work-at-it-every-day marriage. No matter what, I think when you’ve found the right person, it won’t matter who’s fixing who and how good (or naughty…within reason) either of you are. In fact, if you find the right balance, it can actually work in your favor. Keep on searching and leave your heart open. Mr. Right is out there!

By: LvL

LvL — Mon, 19 May 2008 04:25:06 +0000

You *are* too good for them. But not because you gasp at barroom talk, prefer martinis to shots, or don’t generally engage in some of the riskier behaviors that some people do. Because those things aren’t what make you better or more virtuous. Well, maybe more virtuous, but if that’s all it was, it wouldn’t end the way it does. You can have different “virtue” levels without the guy being dark and tortured and idolizing you and then resenting you.

You are too good for them because you are more mature than they are. You know who you are and what you want. Sure, it may sometimes get a little hazy in the area of men, but not in a taking drugs, sleeping around, acting like someone you’re not, sabotaging your overall success and happiness kind of way. They wouldn’t have been in those prior relationships or engaged in the type of behavior they probably did if they were anywhere close to where you deserve to have them be, and just because they want to (or profess to want to) get to that point and do it with you, doesn’t change who they are. There will be enough to “fix” if they are already grown up when you date them.

The rule I try to live by is that guys mean what they say when they say negative things. It is much easier for a guy to tell you what you want to hear, and as you know they are very skilled at doing that. So when they also say things you don’t want to hear (like, “I’m not looking for a serious relationship,” “I’m not good at relationships,” “I’m not good enough for you,” “You don’t realize what kind of guy I can be,” “I don’t know if I can do this,” etc.), listen. And run away.

Be bad, be edgy, try new things, but only do it for you and always be yourself. And wait for the guy who just might be too good for you (but isn’t).